Change: We sometimes want things, our life to change, go on but we are subconsciously afraid of a sudden change (this is how we are programmed) and hinder ourselves. Often we are scared to take the first step but think ‘I should’, ‘it would be good’, but the ‘known bad’ holds us back. We already know that there is nothing unpredictable in it, however it is not anymore okay, we have had more than enough, still it is unsure... What is going to happen next afterwards?
It would be nice if something changed, but preferably so, that nothing changes...
Well that won’t happen. If you don’t proceed to change anything, things will stay as they are.
I used to work in IT, a simple example. We have a software with a runtime error, no matter how often I run it, the same error appears over and over, unless I change the code.
We, humans, are afraid of the unknown. It doesn't matter if it's good or bad ... the point is: UNKNOWN, not predictable.
I hate my job, but what if I quit. When will there be a new? Can I find anything better after all? What if I hate the next one too? I'm going to work with stomach cramps, but at least it is close…
We can find as many excuses as we want, only our imagination limits us. We women tend to sacrifice ourselves for our families anyway, even if they did not ask for it. "It is true that the child is already ten years old, but I am still packing his bag, preparing school breakfast" or "He forgot his gym bag at home, and I have to take it to school after all as otherwise…" Because otherwise what? Would that damn kid finally learn that his actions (in this case, his forgetfulness) have consequences?
This list could go on and on.
We are not service staff nor slaves, but women, wives, mothers, in that order. If you are not whole as a woman, you will not be able to perform your other duties well. You have to be a little selfish sometimes. Your child is not doing what you tell him, but copying your behavior, imitating it. If you are falling apart because you want to solve everything on your own, a work project, a problem with your friend / family, your child's school fuss, all the housework, maybe even helping your partner, your child will copy this slipped self. He will behave the same way as you do, within a few weeks. You are going to tear your hair out and you won’t know how to deal with the situation.
It is very tough to start a change. First, we need to recognize that the time is NOW to proceed. After that, we have to define what we want / need to change. Only after that can the first step be taken, often without seeing the second one.
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It won’t be easy, in fact, at times you’ll endure bitter torments, but the journey will be unforgettable and the end will surpass all your dreams!